Business is war. It’s a jungle out there. Never give a sucker an even break. Nice guys finish last. It’s a dog-eat-dog world. We’ve all heard at least one of these bits of wisdom in our lives. Some of us even use them on a regular basis to describe business or personal philosophy. Though they are effective and hard-hitting, there’s one basic flaw. Each one of these statements is premised on the idea of business or personal relationships as a fight to the death.
Though the idea of life as an endless struggle or fight for survival is romantically appealing, it’s not very efficient. Those who go through life in this way waste so much energy and time waging short-term battles that they lose the long-term war. In this case, the long-term war is productive change.
Though you can force some productive change through continual frontal assaults, there are more efficient means of accomplishing your objectives. It is shortsighted to handle all challenges with the same tactic. Different situations require different methods. By understanding the environment around the situation, you can use tactics that blend into and solve the conflict harmoniously.
If a conflict is solved in a way that creates discord (future conflict), then the situation hasn’t been resolved. You may think you have come out on top, but the conflict will usually be revisited, with much more intensity. Your short-term gain will produce long-term pain, either for you or for the other parties involved.
A basic law of the universe is that “for every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction”. The universe demands that equilibrium is maintained. Imbalances have a way of righting themselves, with the unknown variable being the time it takes for resolution. If we push a situation toward further imbalance, the time table is accelerated. The greater the imbalance becomes, the greater the force against us.
The principle of avoiding negative conflict, yet accomplishing your objectives, is the essence of a martial art called aikido. In aikido, the aggressor’s strength is never met head-on. Instead, the aikidoist, yields to the force in such a way that it is unable to cause harm and, at the same time, the force is redirected, usually to the opponent’s detriment. This is like redirecting the flow of a river instead of opposing it. Much less energy is expended, equilibrium is maintained, and the objectives are met. This principle works in most every situation.
All things in life have a balance. By approaching all situations in life as confrontations and attacking relentlessly, we eventually, upset many balances. This is not to say that you should never use a direct attack. However, by looking at the environment (which shapes the situation and its outcomes) and considering alternatives, we can accomplish our objectives and maintain a healthy, natural balance.
